Asking people to travel for your wedding is asking a lot, and money is the part guests worry about most. There's no fixed rule, but there are common expectations. Being clear about them early is the kindest thing you can do.
What couples usually pay for
The wedding itself is yours: the ceremony, the reception, the food and drink at it, and the main suppliers. Most couples also host any event they invite everyone to, such as a welcome dinner.
- The ceremony and reception
- Food and drink at the events you host
- Transport between the venue and guests' hotels on the day, if it's needed
- Any event you invite everyone to
What guests usually pay for
Guests normally pay their own way there and back, and their own accommodation unless you've said otherwise. Extra days they choose to add are theirs too.
- Flights and travel to the destination
- Their room, unless you're covering it
- Meals and activities outside the wedding events
- Any extra nights before or after
The grey areas
Rooms are the big one. Some couples cover them completely, some ask guests to pay in full and many meet in the middle by paying a share. If you've booked a villa, you'll need to decide how to split it. Whatever you choose, it's fine, as long as guests know before they book.
Optional extras, like a boat trip the day after, are usually paid by the guests who go, but say so on the invite.
How to tell guests
Put it on your website, plainly: what you're covering, what guests pay, roughly what rooms cost and how to pay. People appreciate knowing early, and you'll answer far fewer questions.
Plan it all in one place
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